A friend recently told me he waited in line for gas for over 5 hours in the aftermath of Superstorm Sandy. This was in the middle of his 13 days without power. Before I could finish voicing my sympathy he said, “It didn’t bother me…at least I had heat and the radio in the car – more than I had at home.” And he laughed.
“That’s an interesting way of looking at it,” I replied.
It’s been a struggle lately for a lot of folks in the northeast. Even the sun was struggling to burn through this morning’s thick soup of mist clinging to the ground like a wet security blanket.
But we don’t need security; nor do we need to feel safe all the time. Life is hardly either of the two. It shouldn’t be. Let us acknowledge 2 quotes:
Buddha: Life is difficult
AWOLNATION (Jump on My Shoulders): It’s not supposed to be easy. That’s why it feels so ****** good
Eastern cultures also recognize the benefits of students learning to struggle at an early age, albeit more of an intellectual rather than physical struggle.
Struggling brings about coagulation of effort and causes positive organization. It forces us to evolve and those that are unable to emerge through the struggles often die a Darwinian death of dismay, be it figuratively or literally.
There are some that struggle their whole lives, having been dealt cards that couldn’t be played successfully even by Stu Ungar. But there is no option to fold. And your cards really aren’t that bad when you think about it.
If you stick around long enough, the fog may lift. And if it doesn’t, it is up to you to pretend that it has.
As I tell my sons: a professional baseball scout doesn’t want to come to a game and watch you go 4-4. He already knows you can do that if he traveled far to see you. He wants you to fail. And he wants to see your reaction to failure. Because then he can judge your true demeanor and how well you fight and how well you struggle.
A true man struggles with grace.